[Businessmtg] Secrets

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Al-Pals, 

  

Just for the record it may be important to mention 

the other side of the Secret Coin. I never kept a 

secret. My darn mouth would spout off anything that 

came into my noggin. It didn't matter to whom or 

about what, it just came out. 

  

My father shut me up. "If I say one more word..." 

That sort of thing to where I learned not to talk 

at all. Not keeping secrets (though practically 

I suppose the secrets were kept.) Keeping quiet. 

  

The need to express being dominant, I painted and 

drew. I'm still very good at it. Yes, I probably 

was born with the necessary talent, but the situation 

of my youth furthered it as if it were a favored mentor. 

  

Somewhere in my early thirties I started talking too 

darn much. My wife is used to it. My kids can't stand 

it (though now well into their twenties and thirties 

they've learned to tolerate it.) My grand-kids LOVE IT!!! 

A big person who is willing to talk to them! Wow... 

  

I know this talking thing shows up in my f2f meetings. 

Too-long shares. You know the drill. And here at ASP 

the words just flow unabated. But there's a story behind 

everything. Not a secret story, just a logical explanation 

when all the facts are bared. 

  

It wouldn't surprise me at all if most of our individual 

fears and what we may call "character defects" are little 

different than my long silence and current talkativeness - 

simply child-invented responses to the overwhelming power 

of the big people in our young lives. If so, though I didn't 

cause it nor can I change the past, perhaps, if I choose, 

I could "cure" it by looking at it with big person eyes. 

  

For now, though, I'm still talking. I enjoy it too much 

to quit :-) 

  

(((Hugs))) 

Jerry 

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