[Businessmtg] Anonymity in ASP

[J Roberts]

Hi folks,

For the sake of peace of mind, I would like to see those archived shares
deleted. While I no longer live with alcoholism, I feel very strongly about
those who need to protect their anonymity, that this would be the place
where they could do that.  I was one who lived in fear of having my shares
read.  ASP was one place I felt safe to share what was happening in my life
because I felt confident that working my program helped me find serenity. I
felt safe asking for ESH.   And I communicated with my sponsors. I never
signed up or ordered anything online that referred to Al-Anon using my real
name till I felt safe enough to do so.  I am also the mother who reminded
their children that if they put something in writing it could show up
ANYWHERE, ANYTIME!   So, I still took a chance but  I was one who
safeguarded my account by signing up with an alias, and did NOT put my ASP
email on my phone. I would go so far to delete my ASP account from my log
in history so my Alias did not show up if my AH for some reason needed to
use my computer.    And I would take whatever necessary steps that I needed
to avoid conflict with my AH who was a Dry Drunk - and a disabled Vietnam
Vet who also suffered from PTSD.  I can appreciate the need for anonymity
and it is one of the reasons that I stayed here.   My AH knew I went to
Al-Anon in the beginning, but finally my only means of serenity was keeping
it to myself, working my program and finally feeling healthy.  When I  felt
strong enough and realized my part in the insanity, created boundaries,
learned to detach he became terminally ill.   4 years ago yesterday my God
did for me what I couldn't do for myself and took him home. ----  That day,
I got "myself" back in an instant.   I put new boundaries in place and I
try real hard to live by them. I may even be a little obsessed with them.
But I don't ever want to live with accepting unacceptable behavior in
any way, shape or form, and I wouldn't want any part in subjecting another
human being to either, if I could help it.
   Now, as the greeter chair, I do see how a malcontented husband could get
past our vetting process and create problems.  Where there is a will
there's a way. I don't have to explain how they would do that, but they
could!  If the process of getting rid of archived emails protects
one's anonymity even a little bit and  saves even one life, it was worth
the effort.     =====take what you like and leave the rest!  Jennifer